Because I was thinking about you....

Those times when I thought.."Mom I got it"(she allowed us kids call her San) "I can do it all by myself" and then my WHATHEFUKEVA! kicked in..I dunno if it's called stubbornness or 'being grown' at an early age but..."I CAN DO IT"! (of course she stepped aside.. As she never stood in the way of us kids being independent...not grown their is a difference). I wanna say at 4y.o. I was going on 25! AFTER many failed attempts, I looked back for her with defeat in my eyes. Not knowing what happened or where she WENT!!! Sannn.. I'm bombing here, the love your life?! She became 'The watcher' from a distance. Watching..observing..slightly chuckling..She then asked the 64,000 dollar question. "Are you quitting? or do you need help?"( the task was the task it didn't matter to her WHAT it was, so don't get hung up on that) Huh?..what kind of crazy question is that. Of course I quit if given the choice, the task was too hard. She repeated the question more succinct while starring into my eyes.."Are you giving up? or do you need help". Immediately my little mind was working to understand the choices. I knew I didn't want to disappoint my favorite girl..plus as a caveat she was the strongest person I'd ever known hands down, bar none, put A RING ON IT!( Now passed away, it still remains true of any person I've come across)..

To be or NOT to be..A sore loser..not cool after..

I've always wanted to write this post. It's been writing itself for the past 8yrs at the very least (s./o. to #potus). It's real amongst a lot of today's adults..sigh..let's get it. What was taught you ask? How to take a loss IN ANYTHING! absorb it in some ways similar to a win and even try being gracious in a loss.. make sense? As a kid it took me time to learn and it maaay have spread into early adulthood for some, but you learned. Why? Because you seem petty as an adult sore loser! No hashtags..nope! no made up fancy words combined for trending purposes..No sir! It's a regular word in heavy rotation in Websters..petty. "You can't win'em all" was ingrained in the noggin as early as a competitive streak was noticed at home! Society wasn't like it is today. My parents/aunts,uncles,grandparents etc. Did not/was not entrusting society to hopefully teach me life lessons. I still remember a certain 'rotund' basketball player constantly stating "I'm not a role model" so true. To be or not to be a sore loser is the ? My personal(my blog) belief is that it lowers the value of whatever it is you're so agitated about. Also, it's an unfiltered look at YOU as a person. Getting caught up in the masses is easy.All things being social you're tried in the public's opinion anyway..

Clean up your house already...it's 2015!

Days of the odd couple(Google it) Ala' Felix Unger lashing out at 'Oscar' for being filthy are unceremoniously over (good riddance). I mean if you want company at your home at any point in your LIFE..male/female you pick!!It's real simple, most guys think their level of clean is sufficient..chances are..meh! If you are unfamiliar with cleanliness ask a woman in your life that'll take pity on your soul. Plead to her compassionate side. Maybe to stop by once in awhile for reinforcement pointers if needed. The small chance that your ego and eardrums will survive the constant ridicule,loneliness and different hand lotions from Bath and BodyWork are low.. but HEY! there's something for everyone, shout out to all the 40 year old virgins with supple hands. Especially the one's with the high score on games that most people don't care about ANY DAMN WAY. I'm not saying go overboard and start obsessing. No need to develop a nervous tick or 'I declare war' on a family member's head if things are out of place(see Deuce Bigalow and Monk) Instead why not start a simple habit..Maybe try giving yourself enough time to clean/pick up behind yourself(you know the stuff that your mom screamed at you about as a CHILD) before you leave your house. That way you won't have much to do if company follows you home or you get a surprise visitor..How many surprise visitors have you had by #NOT cleaning up gotten you in the past?..I'm just saying..allow me to continue. I'm one for having a warm feeling to my place.."lived in" as some would say. Having an inviting place that someone wouldn't mind being in besiiides you is not bad..try it. You've obviously done the leg work to move out on your own. Now is not the time to bottle up! GIVE yourself as many chances as you can in the friends/dating arena(NON VIRTUAL) no internet connection is needed here.Wow! yeah that just happened I threw a bumgarner curve right atcha'...concentrate grasshopper.. your goal is to attract friends. Just K.i.S.S.(keep it simple stupid). let's not make things hard. Almost forgot, there's a certain amount of want and laziness that you may have to confront...MM

Rich Dad.. nah!..poor Dad..not so much either, but KOOL Dad!!."I'll take some of that action!

Ah..why yes, I'll take some of that action as the title states. Being at the edge of darkness with a teenager( a girl no-less). "The end of the WORLD as we know it"! Has come and gone a few times. We're still breathing( golf clap + mom's burning skull stare down,equipped w/smirk & attachments). The days flipped by so fast I lost count. I kinda waited for the 'other shoe to drop' looking for the "Dad I hate you rant" or the "Where's mom because dad you're just dad! you don't/wouldn't understand conversation". Don't get me wrong I've gotten on her nerves, YEEAAHH BUDDY! I've heard it through the mom pipeline. Ultimately they grow up and move out..or act like they triiied.The point I'm making is when they're old enough to want you around other than their prerequisite A.T.M.(If you have kids you have my permission to rock the #4life t-shirt). I honestly don't know what I've done to earn favor. "She likes me..she likes me..Hey Mikey"! I was deemed the heavy in my family. Even though her mom got right down to it at the drop of a hat. In my own family it was always "wait til Merle get's here" or "when I tell Merle about: insert WHATEVA dumba**  thing of the day(like ordering a flavored coffee drink)! I don't think you really sign up to be the heavy though, I think you're kind of nominated..sigh..such is life..whateva'. After awhile I stopped waiting...almost wishful thinking that my #ultimatefail came quickly.I couldn't wait to start the repair process. The slow start was baffling though..gotta' tell ya. I was preparing like I was a 'Dooms day prepper' or gearing up for The Zombie Apocalypse somehow!?! Then prom..WOW!!!Graduation was both liberating and freeing,but wait..s-l-o-w-d-o-w-n things were happening so fast. During those times you do a bit of reminiscing with your minion(s). They tell you stories about how you saved the day.. and not once..huh, who would've thunk? It's those times you don't think they remember. Uh oh! They remind us in vivid detail(immediate image of dad in commercial on sidewalk with what appears to be his little girl practicing her cheerleader cheers)..it's groovy Google it..

The building of the BACKBONE! The latest trend and tested very high in focus groups!!!

Very few things bother me since the turn of the century..I find myself asking or trying my best to answer these quandaries we'll call them. The backbone.. from experience is suppose to gain strength as you age. The adolescence of a young man is crucial, I speak from 1st.hand knowledge. The proverbial building of a backbone start as soon as you can walk. Understood,challenged and acknowledged while going thru those male adolescent years. Some things cannot be duplicated online gaming or #twitterbeef/facebook rants and message boards.Verbal jousting(joning/ranking some call it) is a cruel albeit innocent way of coming of age(and so necessary). It introduces you to trash talking early in life. Whereas you're not a fully formed adult male and still NEED your mommy/daddy to do all your damn leg work. There's a point in your life as a man(operative word) BACKBONE decisions will need to be made and expected of you! Ownership and responsibility are things that randomly come up when mentioning anything that resembles a spine=man. At this point your 'proverbial' backbone should've been in full use now for some years. I don't wanna' hear how you put your foot down to get the newest gaming system/phone..Oh but the No Sir!! I mean a decision of merit YOU made with weight or responsibility attached. Buying a car, purchasing a home, moving out of your parents humble abode/or not etc..Deductive reasoning and talking to oneself about not making such a decision is human nature, no judgement here(The pimp hand is cocked in standby mode) but to walk through life with someone else making all of your tough decisions..for shame!! You may as well let them carry your scrotum and all it's attachments. I remember it being an honor to do your last name proud. Nowadays we'll change it in a New York minute for a gimmick.. say word #ochocinco(no shade #factsonly)..I can run with this but you get the gist...MM